I bet you’d agree with me when I say:
It seems everyone has an opinion (or lots of opinions) on how others go about their life and how they approach their passions and dreams.
Sometimes, when the journey to our passion is broken, interrupted, messed up, off track, darkened, out of sorts– we look to others to help us, to give advice, to give their opinion. The only problem is, we get so many point of views we lose our own vision and purpose.
How do we weed through all the advice and pick out the right pieces that’ll hopefully lead us to a good decision about our path? I’ll tell you my thoughts on this in a minute. First, let me tell you what has me on this topic to begin with.
Lately I’ve been struggling, like majorly struggling, with my path and journey of writing. I’m not ready to give too many details, but I will say this, it breaks my heart to feel the lack of love for writing. I’ve never experienced it like this before.
At first, I thought I just needed to take a break. So, I took a break. That didn’t help.
Then, I thought I needed to work on a new story to get some fresh writerly blood flowing. That worked for a day or two, but the love faded all too quickly.
I finally reached out to some of my writer/author friends. I got some good advice and I got a lot of it. I also reached out to friends who aren’t on any sort of writing path. I got some good advice and I got a lot of it.
At the end of the day, I was still lost. Still confused. Still out of love.
*** Cue the tears ***
There were lots and lots of tears.
Finally, after too much time, I decided to clear the board and discard all the outside thoughts and opinions. I got down to what *I* felt. Not just the top layer of feelings, but the deep, dark, don’t really want to face it feelings–the ones that linger in the nooks and crannies of my heart and mind.
That’s not easy–AT ALL!
But, there ya have it. That’s my answer to the question I asked above: “How do we weed through all the advice and pick out the right pieces that’ll hopefully lead us to a good decision about our path?” We have to dive into the nooks and crannies of what we truly want from our dreams, goals, and passions.
Of course, there are always exceptions. There are times when we really need to depend on others and reach out. But when we still can’t get to the crux of our heartbreak, pain, and the lost feeling, we have to know it’s time to go deep and reach within ourselves.
I came to the conclusion that my passion deserves 100% of my love, attention, and heart. And when my passion fades, it’s up to me to figure out why. This is my journey and where I end up is completely up to me. Yes, listening to others is good, but sometimes, I have to trust myself, trust my gut, and trust my heart.
I think, sometimes, we tend to rely on other people’s thoughts and advice so if we mess up, or we don’t get things figured out, we won’t feel 100% to blame. Let’s not do that. Let’s learn to take full responsibility and control of our journey, dreams, and goals.
Take the reins, take hold of your power, and even though the decision may not be easy, know you have all the control of where you go. Sometimes, that means changing your path or maybe even creating a new path all-together. Don’t be scared to do that. Revel in the fact you have the power to do so. Embrace the fact you may make the way for others to follow the new path you build. You never know until you start. Enjoy your journey, and when it gets hard, and you begin to lose your way, look within. You hold the power.
Until next time…
Love life. Be Kind. Be genuine. Eliminate the negative, false, and vain. Peace, love, and happiness to all.