How can another year be coming to an end?
No doubt, 2015 went by fast and furious. For me, it included many changes and lessons.
One change to my life was the loss of my sweet Nana. It was a difficult time, but one thing I’ve learned about grief and death, the person and memories never leave you. Nana has visited me many times through dreams, smells, and simply wanting her near. Continue to rest in peace, Nana. We miss you dearly.
Another change… I made decisions about my book, which weren’t easy, but necessary. Now, months after deciding to leave my publisher, I see it was most certainly a very, very good decision for many reasons. I’ll spare you the details. Just know, if you’d like to publish a book, you have many avenues to do so. Investigate all your options. Don’t rush the decision. It’s your path, so follow your heart. By the way, I have exciting goals and plans for publishing in 2016. I’ll share those once the new year rolls around.
The biggest (and fastest) change this year was the selling of our house in South Carolina so we could move permanently to Vermont. We made the decision to sell, put the house on the market, and sold it all within a month. Then, sold our stuff and made the transition within two months. Boy, talk about moving fast… literally. If you read my last post, you know it was a good (and happy) decision. The biggest lesson I learned from that experience– a hard, tedious process can bring happiness and peace. You just have to be open to change and welcome it with open arms– no holds barred.
Through this big year of change, I learned who my real friends are– the ones who sat aside their own needs to help me through, to listen, to just be there. I learned there are some who feel if you’re not constantly validating them, always pouring all your energy into them, no matter what’s going on in your life, they just don’t have the wherewith-all to be by your side (or even sit on the sidelines). Sometimes, life requires you to be selfish, and to take care of yourself before others. If “others” can’t understand that, let them go. When times are rough, hard, and challenging, you need people who truly care and love you. Period. Plain and simple.
Personally, aside from all the outside changes, I’ve made big strides in my inner peace. I’ve learned so much about myself and what it means to be happy. Material things are just that, material. They don’t translate into happiness. For me– friends, family, and simplicity are where I find peace, joy, and happiness.
Lastly, I want to leave you with a thought for now and for the future…
To each their own. Not one person is the same as the next. We all have different goals, different loves, different points of view, different points of happiness, different tolerance levels, different eyes in which we see the world. Be sure to listen before you argue. Don’t assume you know what someone else is thinking or feeling. Don’t assume you know what someone else is going through. Reach out to someone before persecuting them with your harsh words and bitterness. Never hate. Always love.
Cheers to a good ending of 2015 and a happy 2016. Many wonderful things are ahead. Stay open. Stay positive. Stay strong.
Until next time…